Self-image is how you see yourself. It’s what you think about yourself – your personality, your appearance, and even your abilities and performance. This mental idea that we have about ourselves is not easy to change, whether we love who we are or aren’t too comfortable in our lives. If you have a negative self-image, building a strong, positive one is not easy. However, it is well worth the effort because learning how to love yourself – with all your flaws – can significantly change your outlook on life. By improving your self-image, you can free yourself from mental chains and be the person you truly want to be. This way, you can live a life filled with joy.
Turning your life around and cultivating the right mindset takes patience and time, but with someone to guide you, you can build a powerful, loving self-image much faster. I can help you achieve your goals – whether it’s to lose weight, boost confidence and self-esteem or build a winning self-image.
Change Comes From Within
Many of my clients are surprised to hear that changing external factors won’t do much good for improving their self-image. If you, for example, want to lose weight in order to fit into your high-school jeans or rock a killer bikini body on the beach this summer, you will probably go on a rigorous diet and start exercising. You may shed some pounds. Hey, you may even reach your goal. But the problem is – what happens when you have reached it? Will you stop exercising and go back to eating unhealthy, junk food? The sad truth is that, for most people, weight loss is the end goal here, when it should in fact be completely changing eating habits and exercising on a regular basis.
What’s perhaps even more shocking is that reaching your goal (weight loss in this case) doesn’t necessarily have to have an improved self-image as a result. This is because you need to work on your mindset before focusing on your appearance. The same goes for basically anything in life. Keep in mind that the self-image you have about yourself is very resistant to change of any kind. That is why it is best to take things slowly and approach one obstacle at a time. If you want to lose weight, start with the little things – reduce your portions a bit at first, take the stairs instead of the elevator or replace chocolate with fruits. You should feel comfortable with the changes you make and introduce new changes gradually. Give yourself enough time to adjust even to the smallest of changes. Celebrate milestones!
Unhealthy vs. Healthy Self-Image
If you constantly focus on your flaws, you cannot grow as a person. You will soon become a prisoner of those traits that you perceive as debilitating – and they will affect every area of your life. Your self-confidence will suffer as your limitations begin to define who you are. Remember that being critical toward yourself and acknowledging that you are flawed (just like any other living being!) is a completely different story than allowing your drawbacks to take over your life.
People with an unhealthy self-image also tend to compare themselves to others. Since perfection in any sphere of life is unattainable, this can only lead to stress, anxiety, and depression, which can have a detrimental effect on a person’s health and overall well-being. So, instead of trying to be better than others, my advice is to strive to become the best version of yourself. This includes accepting your flaws and forgiving yourself for your mistakes – everyone makes mistakes, the point is to learn something from them in order to avoid making them in the future! Additionally, don’t think in terms of what you can’t do but what you CAN. If you convince yourself that you cannot do something, then you really won’t be able to do it. On the other hand, if you have just a little faith in your capabilities, you can truly achieve amazing things.
The first step to turning an unhealthy self-image into a healthy one is to explore yourself. You have to figure out who you really are and work from there. Start with listing all those traits that you love about yourself and then move on to examine your flaws. You can set various goals for yourself, goals whose aim is to help you become that person you want to be, but don’t solely focus on what you can do in the future. Instead, focus on all the good things that you have now. They are what will drive further change. Once your self-confidence starts to improve, so will your mindset. When you begin perceiving who you are in a new, more positive light, your self-image is bound to improve.
The Key to Success
A healthy, strong self-image is all about you and you alone. No one else can complete you because you are already complete. Yes, there is always room for additional growth and development, but this has to come from within your being.
There are many positive strategies you can adopt on your way to a strong self-image. I can help you choose the perfect strategies for your unique needs, supporting you every step of the way, but you have to be willing to free yourself from your limitations. Only when you are free can you properly define yourself. You are not alone in this ‘battle.’ Many of us have been where you are now and emerged as victors. You too can do it – you just have to believe in yourself. And if you do not believe in yourself, I will.